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Do You Feel Invisible?
Do you feel invisible? Don’t worry, it’s only the ghost of a false inner narrative….
Invisibility is also a theme lately in people’s conversations. I’ve seen it on many women’s Facebook pages or in stores, friends, even features in the NYT and closer to home, in my own book club. Forty-somethings onward have mentioned it and it’s not just a women thing. Men have mentioned it, i.e. the single guys on The Golden Bachelorette brought it up. So why do so many of us feel invisible or is it a theme?
I’ve had many mood and person-hood states in my life and many existential passages. It’s the price of being human but feeling invisible isn’t one of those states. I’ve had times where I’ve wondered what I am doing in life, or if I am or my work is important or relevant. I’ve questioned friendships I’ve had and I’ve re-examined parenthood a ton of times. So, and I am not judging, I wonder if invisibility is an inside job that occurs when we’ve lost touch with our essential selves.
Our essential selves have nothing to do with income, weight, wrinkles, age, work or how we spend our days.
If someone ignores me because I am older (and that is a total presumption I am using as an example because it is the one I hear most often) it’s is a false narrative that might have at best, a thread of truth or none at all) I sort of relax. If I am un-noticed because I am older (or whatever it is because anyone can make-up any story about why something negative…
